Many people worry about how they will have to carry on after they have their baby. Is it safe to have sex after the baby? When can I have sex after the baby? These are some of the questions that are itching in a new mom (and dads, let's be real here!). It is generally best to wait until at least 6 weeks after giving birth, and with your care provider’s clearance.
Immediately after birth, you may notice that there will still be bleeding and you will feel swollen in the labia and vagina regions. Even if you had a cesarean birth, you will probably still need several weeks of pelvic rest. Take your time and do not rush into intercourse. Even after the 6 weeks are up, the body is still readjusting.
You can also decide to have sex and feel mentally ready, but you may be afraid of the pain. In this case, you may need to talk to your partner and take it slow. Start with oral sex or other alternatives to make sure you are comfortable. Explain to your partner that you may not be ready to go all the way or a little cuddling does not have to end up in full coitus. You can also try and enjoy your partner through mutual masturbation to make sure you both feel still loved.
Many women need to get their mood just right before going on with the act of making love. Make sure your partner understands that. Keep the lines of communication open to make sure there is no withdrawal. Some people suffer from post-partum depression and can also have the baby blues. Attend one of the support groups with your partner to help them understand how to handle you when you get in that state. Make sure they know this is a phase and you still love them. You may have a low libido when going through these things. You will need to ensure you are getting the help needed so you can care for yourself and your family.
Make sure to use a lubricant because vaginal dryness is one of the reasons post-partum sex can be uncomfortable. If you went through a C-section then having sex side by side is the best option to avoid putting any pressure on the wound.
Most of all, take your time and enjoy each other!
-Birth With Bethany provides natural childbirth classes, placenta encapsulation and certified car seat checks for Denton, Grapevine, Fort Worth, Dallas and Plano area families.
I'm Bethany. Wife. Boy Mom. Bradley Method® teacher. Child passenger safety technician. Placenta encapsulator. I like little dogs, big hair and sweet tea.