Sex During Pregnancy

Sometimes we act like this topic is taboo and may not want to discuss it… but sex during pregnancy can be FUN! We all know about the birds and bees here, right?

The question on most peoples mind is whether it is safe to have sex during your pregnancy. If you are having a normal pregnancy, then you should be able to have safe sex during the pregnancy. The only time you are not allowed to have sex, is when your physician or midwife insists that you should not. This may be if you have complications that make the sex a no-no. The rest is really based on if you feel like it or not.

You may be wondering how it can possibly be safe to have sex while the baby is still in utereo. Well, the way the body works during pregnancy is that the cervix will create a very strong mucous plug that protects the baby from most harmful bacteria. During intercourse the penis will only go as far as the vagina, so no worries about “poking the baby”! On that note, ask your partner to keep things safe just in case; this means using condoms if you aren't monogamous, and avoiding extreme sex toys. 

Just in case you are wondering if having an orgasm will cause you to go into labor, then we can assure you it usually will not. If you are having a low risk pregnancy, then you do not have to worry about the contractions forcing labor to start. They are often mild and cannot harm the baby. In fact, orgasms are a great tool to tone the uterus in preparation for labor!

For many women, sex during pregnancy does not feel the same as sex when you are not pregnant. Some may have heightened arousal or drive during their pregnancy, while others detest it. The science behind this is that during the pregnancy, more blood is flowing to the cervix, vagina, vulva and clitoris. This means that you will feel a heightened sensation that will result in the pleasure you feel during intercourse. There is also extra lubrication produced naturally during pregnancy and may add to the pleasure felt. 

For others who will not like sex during this time, then it is most likely a sign of the same things happening but with a different reaction. Some women feel that the engorged walls of the vagina make them feel full and therefore uncomfortable. The breasts become extra tender and sensitive especially in the first trimester. For some, this brings feelings of pleasure while others are over sensitized. 
When it comes to sexual positions to use during pregnancy then you will need to come up with a plan with your partner. Some of the styles like missionary can be difficult late in the pregnancy. Have fun experimenting with the positions that will enable you to enjoy the pleasure of having a romantic evening with your partner without harming the baby.


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